The family is the single most important unit of any integral society. Mediation should be practiced as a way of life, commencing in the cradle.  This practice establishes safe laws for human interaction in the family, building the foundation for a safe, litigious free society.

When mediation is practiced every day, 24x7, between sisters and brothers, mothers and fathers, grandparents and grandchildren, the protocol for safe mediation is created between all people.  The practice of mediation as a way of life would immensely reduce the pressure on our law courts and social justice systems permanently.

The aim of this paper is to discuss a forty year research involving children, parents, and grandparents spanning over three generations. These ten families have made it their enduring aim to develop and practice safe mediation laws in their daily life. Using safe mediation as a way of life has solved every issue within this research group and lead to the creation of the Ideal Human Environment (IHE). The IHE is an environment whereby each person can express themselves in a manner that maintains physical and emotional safety.

Our research experience suggests that a mediation formula can be deemed successful when it passes the test with forty family and friends living together over four decades. By using the primary law of mediation, “If you do not hurt me and do not walk away we will work it out” this research group ultimately were successful in solving every potentially inflammatory issue without emotional or physical injury.

This paper will briefly discuss how a group of families have done just that; mediated in the family- the cradle of mediation, successfully for three generations and achieved the beginnings of the IHE.